Tears – The Reason Behind Them
Ever wondered why some people cry very easily while some just can’t cry? An insight into the reason behind those tears-
Are you one of those who tear up very easily? Do happy endings, weddings or just the sight of cute little puppies being cared for, bring tears to your eyes?
Or are you the type who just doesn’t cry? Don’t remember when was the last time you had tears in your eyes?
No matter which type you are, we all end up crying at the most unexpected situations and are totally caught off guard. Tears are not really under our control. You may have tried to control those tears by blinking rapidly but it doesn’t work every time.
Reason Behind Those Tears
Crying is a natural response to varied feelings, be it happiness or sadness or sometimes even seeing something beautiful. When you let your guard down and get taken over by the moment, you react emotionally.
Crying is a release of emotions. Grief, anger, frustration, etc, can all cause you to cry. It is a signal by your body that an issue need to be handled. People also cry to get attention or to manipulate others. When you cry, the societal mind frame is such that you gain support and most often get your way.
So, Who Cries?
It is a well known fact that women cry more than women. The main reason behind this is, the society allows women to cry and shuns a man who cries. As the times are changing, people accept when a man cries. It is no more a woman thing.
People who have undergone trauma tend to cry more. When they think of their past or how their lives have taken a turn because of a particular incident, they experience pain and express it through tears.
Does It Help?
Though people claim they feel better after crying, studies show otherwise. Depressed and anxious people tend to feel worse after crying, however the reasons are not known.
How To Cope
There are many times when we find ourselves surrounded by people who cry easily and are caught off guard. Here are some tips to help you out:
- Staying quiet is not the way to handle a crier. It only makes it worse.
- Try to hold them or give them a hug if they are close to you. If not, a few consoling words can lend enough support to make them feel better.
- You don’t know what they need unless they are very close to you. Instead of assuming, ask them how you can be of help.
- If someone tears up in a large group extend support.
Control Those Tears
Crying is not always an option. There are times when we have to put a brave face and not let your emotions get the best of you. In such situations, try to control the tears for a later time or excuse yourself from the place.
Not Crying Is Not Good
Controlling your tears all the time is not a good way to handle your emotions. It may lead to depression and have a psychological effect on you.